By now you’ve probably tried Tinder. It can be extremely frustrating. Swipe, after swipe, after swipe… A lot of people use it to hook up. If you’re DTF, then that’s cool. But you also can use it to find a girlfriend. You just have to be smart and, of course, patient.
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As you know, meeting people in the digital world takes time and is usually disappointing. The first thing you have to do is adjust your mind set. You’re going to fail more often than succeed. Keep an open mind. More importantly, keep your eyes open. If she offers her Facebook page, check it out. You can tell a lot (what she really looks like!)
The best part about Tinder is its low impact
You don’t have to spend hours writing emails and profiles. Women also somehow have lower expectations and are more willing to give you a chance. Even if you don’t fit perfectly into their fairy tale story.
Most dating sites put you through the ringer, asking you about yourself and what you are looking for and so on and so on.
That sends thoughts running through their female brains of a partner in crime or kissing frogs to find a prince (we’ve all read those profiles.)
But what women really want is to:
- Actually be attracted to the guy who shows up
- Like him enough to want to see him again
- Have him not be some psycho, stalker, weirdo
If you do those three things, you’ll be 10 percent better than 90 percent of the guys out there, and you’ll probably get some action.
“Take a chance. Be different. Stand out from the crowd.”
Tinder is set up exactly like gambling. There’s a picture of a woman. She writes one or two little teasing words. She says no hook up.
Of course, when you read no hook up, you know in your male mind she actually does want to hook up, but she doesn’t want to validate that because she actually wants to get laid.
And you hope, wait, hope and wait this beauty will get back to you. She doesn’t, so what do you do?
You go back on Tinder. It’s on your mobile phone. You can Tinder anywhere you want! You can even Tinder while you’re taking a dump, which most men do.
You get back on, and you continually get nothing in your inbox – nothing at all.
But yet you go back and you’ve heard from friends they’ve actually gotten laid from Tinder. So you keep going and going and going.
How do you make Tinder a success? Here’s a couple of quick tips to make Tinder more successful.
1. Swipe right every single time
No questions. No exceptions. Expect nothing. Whatever you get is a bonus.
It’s about as superficial as can be, so if you really want to succeed in Tinder, you need to do a few things differently. For one, have no expectations.
2. Write something catchy in your profile
Just something catchy. I write “international entrepreneur.”
What I would do is write down one positive amazing trait about you.
“Pick something that will intrigue her female brain.”
I’m killer at Scrabble. I have the skills of a ninja warrior when it comes down to negotiating the price of a car.
Pick something that will intrigue her female brain because most guys don’t write anything. (Not only that, but you have to have a catchy screen name if you aren’t using your full name!)
You also can always write…
3. Not looking for hook up
Even if she is looking for a hook up, she’s going to have sex with a guy whose not looking for a hook up. The same psychological buttons work on women as well as men.
4. Get back to her the minute you get a phone number
Get the conversation rolling right away. Don’t text something like “Hi, how are you?”
Write something clever like “Hey, I checked out your short profile. You look like a girl who really wants to meet a real man. If you’re not doing anything spectacular this weekend, I strongly suggest we have a magical ‘boy meets girl’ moment :).”
It will spark her romantic love story that she’s been telling herself about since she was 12.
Take a chance. Be different. Stand out from the crowd because you can be sure there’s a crowd of guys texting her. If she suddenly stops texting, send her “Oh hey, did we break up already? These Tinder relationships are brutal.” She’ll love it and definitely get back you.
Make Tinder work for you. Have fun. And remember – low expectations!