When you remain Facebook friends with your ex, it means they can keep tabs on you. They can see who you’re going out with and what you’re doing. Often they may reach out in the form of likes on your pictures or statuses.
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And it’s no surprise it messes with your mind. You ask yourself, “What does this mean? Do they still love me? Are they trying to get me back?”
Here are 4 reasons your ex keeps liking your Facebook posts, which should help you answer those burning questions.
4. They Still Care
Relationships exist because of feelings. If you had a relationship with this person, feelings were involved to some extent.
Just because the relationship ends doesn’t mean feelings immediately end, too. The relationship ending meant you couldn’t have a romantic future together.
If they are liking your statuses and what not, this may be their way of expressing that they still care about you in some capacity and take interest in your life, despite the fact you’ve established an ending to your romantic nature.
3. They Want You Back
It’s important not to confuse someone may still care with them wanting you back. They are two separate entities. If you assume one means the other, you’re setting yourself up for some emotional trauma.
Now it’s true your ex may be trying to relight the fire. They may be trying to use a simple Like to start getting you to rethink about your separation. They may hope the Like starts getting the ball rolling again.
2. They’re Keeping One Foot in and One Foot Out
People are rarely black and white, and romantic feelings in relationships muddy the decision-making powers of people more than anything else.
Most often the Facebook Like is serving as an indecisive digital pop stand allowing your ex to keep one foot in and one foot out of having a role in your life. It’s a simple way for your ex to remind you of them — to keep their person in your mind.
They may not be sure what they want from you. Maybe it’s a future booty call to combat a lonely night, or maybe it’s because their life is chaos right now and they are hoping to get back together in the future.
You don’t know and they don’t even know. It’s a way for them to non-threateningly assert themselves into the current happenings of your life in which they no longer exist.
1. They Just Happen to Like Your Posts
There’s the chance this Like means nothing, literally nothing, to the state of your relationship. They may just like whatever your post was regardless of its relation to you.
Unfortunately, not everything has to mean something. Maybe your burrito pic just really looked that good.
If you’re sure your relationship should be a closed door and in your past, and the occasional Facebook like has you wondering what’s going on, then you need to unfriend and secure your privacy settings because ain’t nobody got time for that.
If you don’t care, then you don’t care and carry on.
If you are unsure of where you and your ex stand, then by all means take the Facebook Like out of your relationship decision-making. It’s weak and should in no way serve as the indicator of the future path of your relationship.
See what other things your ex is willing to communicate in terms of reigniting. If they aren’t, then you need to question why you think they make such a great partner.
Do you stay Facebook friends with your exes? Is it a good or bad idea?