We’ve all heard stories of people doing almost anything for love. From billboards or personal ads, to romantic love songs or YouTube videos with professions of love, some might consider these grand acts extreme, desperate or absolutely brilliant.
Regardless of your interpretation and if you would ever consider partaking in any of the above examples, they offer us real-life presentations of the different levels and types of risk-taking behaviors people engage in for love.
Even if you find the above examples crazy, risky or dramatic, there is something to learn from them.
The above professions of love teach us the truth about love. It does not and cannot exist without vulnerability and taking chances.
With love, there is potential for loss
The key to letting love in is to understand and accept the risk involved.
If you are reading this, part of you already feels love is a chance worth taking. It may feel vulnerable (as it naturally is) to say “I love you” and show others love, but it is a beautiful thing to give and receive love.
Yes, pain, insecurity, fear and discomfort might occur in some moments as you take risks in love, but isn’t it worth it in the end?
You might say I would never, ever think of traveling across the country to meet a man, propose to the man you love or put out a personal ad, and I am not necessarily saying you should.
However, if you find yourself single and unwilling to approach an attractive man, ask a man out or refuse to date a man a few years younger than you, it would serve you well to break out of your comfort zone.
“Without tattooing your crush’s name on your body,
there are actions you can take to find love.”
In fact, if the thought of introducing yourself to a man or being the first one to initiate a text message or phone call sounds extreme, I urge you to evaluate what you are actually doing to allow love into your life.
All too often my clients believe they are available or open to love despite the reality they are not doing much to attract love or let it in when it presents itself.
I have the honor of working with many clients who want romantic love, a partner, a marriage and children, but the fear associated with attaining these very wants sometimes stops them from acting in line with their values.
Unfortunately love or a great partner doesn’t magically appear like a magician pulling a rabbit out of a hat – these things entail effort, risk, intention, openness and action.
Trying something new (aka taking risks in your love life) might just be the recipe for finding love. Not letting fear stop you in your tracks and deliberately taking action despite your fear will open you up to love.
Without tattooing your crush’s name on your body, posting an ad on Craigslist, becoming the next “Bachelor” on ABC or engaging in anything you might consider too risky, there are many little actions you can take to find love.
Here are five simple ones to try:
- Approach a man you are attracted to.
- Try online dating or speed dating and consider using matchmaking services or a dating/relationship coach to help you meet eligible singles.
- Ask a man out. (Yes, you are absolutely allowed as a confident and empowered woman who knows what she wants!)
- Let a friend, family member, neighbor or colleague set you up and go on a blind date with an open mind and open heart.
- Flirt, smile, use open body language, look/act approachable and visualize yourself in your ideal relationship to attract love in your life.