The world is full of naturally shy people. Sometimes it’s our job to cater to their needs and aid them in boosting their confidence, especially if you happen to be dating a shy person.
It’s not uncommon for those without confidence to dislike meeting new people, and if these new people happen to be your best buddies who you hang out with all the time, your partner is going to feel even more intimidated.
However, there are ways of getting around this anxiety.
What’s the problem?
If your girlfriend doesn’t fancy meeting your new friends, talk to her about it. This doesn’t mean interrogate her until she gives in or flees.
Find out the reasons behind her rejection of meeting your friends.
From there you will be able to determine the next step and how to arrange a meeting between your girlfriend and your friends without her feeling uncomfortable or potentially risking your relationship.
Fear of the unknown.
If you find your girlfriend doesn’t want to meet your friends because she feels intimidated by the thought of meeting so many people she knows nothing about, you should attempt to have her meet a few of your friends one at a time.
Let your girlfriend get to know your friends a step at a time. Have her meet them with you at a neutral location, like your local pub or a bar you frequent.
“Try to paint your friends in a positive
light until she can get to know them.”
The only girl.
Your partner’s fear could be something as simple and irrational as she doesn’t want to be the only girl within the group.
If this is the case, the fix is simple. Tell your friends to invite their girlfriends (if they have one) and you can double, triple or even quadruple date to make your partner feel less alone.
She isn’t interested.
If you find your girlfriend simply isn’t interested in meeting your mates, try to reason with her.
Offer to meet her friends or take her out to dinner if she’ll spend an evening with you amongst your peers.
If she won’t change her mind, consider the cause of her stubbornness and attempt to bring her round to your perspective.
The worst-case scenario is you may have to give up and try to encourage her some other time, but don’t let this affect your relationship.
There could be other reasons for your girlfriend’s lack of interest or fear of meeting your friends. It could be there are a number of your friends she doesn’t like the sound of.
Try to paint your friends in a positive light until she can get to know them for herself.
Leave out the tales of your wildest adventures and worst mistakes, as this will only serve to make things more difficult for her.
Have you ever had a girlfriend who refused to meet your friends? How did you handle the situation? Share your stories in the comments below.